Coming Out to Kids as Trans
I was asked recently for resources for trans people with children. Honestly, there's never very much, but here's the list I sent her:
- COLAGE does a lot of work with LGBT parents, & coming out: http://colage.org/resources/parents.htm
- They have specific information on how to come out to your kids: http://colage.org/resources/coming_out.htm
- there's a new organization called TransFamily that might have some stuff: http://www.transfamily.org/
- You may also find useful information at Abigail Garner's Families Like Mine site: http://familieslikemine.com/
- We have a forum on our message boards for people dealing with kids & family: http://www.myhusbandbetty.com/community/forumdisplay.php?f=34
- There's a Kids of Trans tag for this blog, too: http://www.myhusbandbetty.com/tag/kids-of-trans/
If anyone has any newer resources I haven't yet seen, please do add them!
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GQTGParenting is another. Good balance of the potential flavors of parents/ prospective parents that also happen to be trans or prospective trans. Topics range from dealing with stealth & kids (!) to requests for info regarding pregnancy after T.
"GQTGParenting is a place to talk about being trans or gender variant and birthing/adopting/raising children. PROSPECTIVE PARENTS ARE WELCOME!"
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/GQTGParenting/
Forgot to mention: TransFamily.org has been around since 1995 as TransFamily of Cleveland. They also have parents, couples, spouses, children and teens mail lists, but as of a while back many of the messages seemed focused on the local support group.
What a wonderful thing you are doing! Keep up the great work!
Depending on their age, I would seriously recommend showing them "No Dumb Questions. http://www.logoonline.com/video/misc/107503/no-dumb-questions-part-1-of-3.jhtml?id=1600436 It's a great film for kids (I showed it to my 8-year old daughter and, even though she was initially resistant to watching it, I later found her watching by herself). It starts to address issues of fear of loss or ridicule/shame they might have about it. After you show it to your kid, drive them somewhere for ice cream (them in the back seat) and I suspect you'll get a lot of comments and questions coming up!
As I noted on En/Gender, Colage has a specific link for trans parents: http://colage.org/programs/trans/
If any readers live in the Bay Area, there is a peer lead monthly support group for trans parents sponsored by Our Family Coalition which has been going for over 2 years. It's at the San Francisco LGBT Community Center at 1800 Market St. (corner of Octavia). It's from 10am-12noon on the third Saturday of each month. For more info: http://www.ourfamily.org/programs/support_groups/transgender
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