tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13297025.post6153929369783376768..comments2023-10-07T02:00:48.078-07:00Comments on Trans Group Blog: (Partner) Anger & Traumahelen boydhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06979008474375552946noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13297025.post-74357560538816249492008-03-07T15:38:00.000-08:002008-03-07T15:38:00.000-08:00Breaks the heart, some. I'm suddenly more glad th...Breaks the heart, some. I'm suddenly more glad than ever that my transition was on the table from the beginning, with my partner.<BR/><BR/>And Julia--right on.little lighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04348805482325856358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13297025.post-19198850015197490342008-03-07T14:45:00.000-08:002008-03-07T14:45:00.000-08:00Hi Helen,I agree with you about cisgender. I think...Hi Helen,<BR/><BR/>I agree with you about cisgender. I think transgender is such a broad category - "anyone who transgresses gender norms" - which depending on how you define it can include most of us. So while I know lots of very gender-typical or gender-normative people who are definitely *not* transgender (aka, cisgender), it is a bit to murky when it gets to folks who aren't so obviously -juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06703465310869693798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13297025.post-11004835945370287402008-03-06T10:51:00.000-08:002008-03-06T10:51:00.000-08:00yes, that's a great essay. i chose to write about ...yes, that's a great essay. i chose to write about anger, as well, because it's one of those emotions that us "over emotional" women are not supposed to have (& yet the one that men, who aren't generally allowed to have emotions, are.)<BR/><BR/>but i need to say something about cisgender. it rubs me wrong. <BR/><BR/>not because i don't try to acknowledge my non-trans privilege. but moreso because helen_boydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10449290480827158734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13297025.post-6067149992012889402008-03-05T20:25:00.000-08:002008-03-05T20:25:00.000-08:00hi Helen,Today I just happened to read Audre Lorde...hi Helen,<BR/><BR/>Today I just happened to read Audre Lorde's essay "The Uses of Anger." In it, she addresses white feminists who become uncomfortable in response to the anger of women of color. She beautifully makes the connection between that anger and the anger that women (in general) feel towards sexism.<BR/><BR/>This quote stands out for me: "It is not the anger of other women that will -juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06703465310869693798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13297025.post-5164859998286069642008-03-05T09:56:00.000-08:002008-03-05T09:56:00.000-08:00Helen -- just so you know, I never forget what my ...Helen -- just so you know, I never forget what my wife is going through as I transition. We're lucky that our love is strong and that we have nearly 27 years of a good relationship to work with. We hope to beat the odds. I'm trying to make sure always to think of her, always to care for her, and always to keep her needs in mind as I also pay attention to my own. I don't want to finally be Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com